Comments on: A Mormon (Feminist!) Image: Graduation Day

By: littlebetafish

littlebetafish — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 19:05:12 +0000

I am trying to finish my phd with two kids under three. I have no idea how I am going to do it but it just seem like a waste since I am already in my dissertation phase. It’s just hard to want to work some more at the end of a long day with kids. I love hearing other moms struggle with finding the right time for school. My husband is extremely supportive but I find that no one really understand the internal struggle I have about it. I enjoyed reading your experiences and thank you for sharing.

By: FoxyJ

FoxyJ — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:58:14 +0000

Sorry–I didn’t realize the picture quality was so poor when I submitted it This was before we had a digital camera and I’m still figuring out my scanner settings.

Thanks for your kind comments; still figuring out my life without academia, but my husband now works at home so sometimes I look over his shoulder at what he’s doing

By: Katya

Katya — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 13:45:34 +0000

Confession:

I read the first few lines of this (remember the picture was very small!) and thought “Oh, it’s some academic power couple that I would probably never be friends with.”

Scroll down to the submission line and—“Oh, it’s FoxyJ who I love!”

That’ll teach me to go by first impressions.

By: Lianne

Lianne — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 12:57:46 +0000

Wonderful photo! To be married, have children and continue an education takes incredible teamwork between the two of you. It’s quite a testament.
Thank you for sharing this, it made me smile this morning.

By: shannon j

shannon j — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 04:47:29 +0000

My husband and I are both graduating in May. I am so excited that we can take pictures of the two of us in our caps and gowns.

By: Eris

Eris — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 02:13:01 +0000

Great photo!

By: mfranti

mfranti — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 01:03:35 +0000

Austin, that was as big as I could get that pic to go. I guess it depends on the file size and this pic is too small.

next time.

By: Austin Smith

Austin Smith — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 00:04:53 +0000

Awesome! One request, though: could we get pictures that are a little bigger? I can barely see most of these great pictures!

By: CJ

CJ — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 23:11:19 +0000

Congratulations! It’s really exciting to have achieved so much academically, and also to be celebrating your eighth wedding anniversary! In a marriage, every year is a huge achievement. It’s not about just staying together, but about continuing to grow together.

I know that, for me, graduating from law school was very hard, in the sense that, for so long, I’d been used to sharing this big part of my life with Jim. All of of a sudden, I didn’t know what the heck he was doing every day! Now, I don’t mean that in the controlling, “I want to monitor his every move” sense, but in the sharing goals and dreams, and being able to communicate effectively about our lives sense. For years, I’d been used to sharing not just classes, but understanding–when I had a big test coming up, or he did, we could talk about that and we understood what the other one meant.

Then, all of a sudden, we were off in our separate orbits doing something completely different every single day! Now, I’m a lawyer, but I can say with complete confidence that I have just NO understanding of what it is he does every day. It was a hard transition for me, from intuitively understanding the problems and stresses of his life to relying on his (sometimes patchy) explanations.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 22:48:44 +0000

Congratulations to both of you on your achievements!

You beat me to it! I was going to submit a picture a lot like this. I graduated with my MBA on the same day DH graduated with his BS. I was 7 months pregnant with my first son. Since then, DH finished his PhD, and I started (and quit) my PhD (not the right time, but someday). I, too, am grateful for a husband (and mom) who supports me in my educational pursuits.